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Wednesday, November 9, 2011

I can understand why some people choose to never have kids

first born at 11 weeks
I'll be the first to admit it. I, long before I had kids would be the first to judge someone for stating they "never wanted to have any kids." I was convinced they would never feel fulfilled in life and that they possibly needed some sort of counselling.

4,000 nappies later, I have changed my mind. No. I don't mean that I regret having kids. I love them more than anything in the world & I want more. Yes I am broody! I just mean that, yes, I can see why someone would opt not to. And many people don't have any. And many of us are waiting until our careers are so established that we can hire nannies to help carry the workload.

Today, the girls were fantastically well-behaved and they had me in stitches I was laughing so hard but I am still worn off of my feet.  I was up an hour before them to get a run in, but from 7am -7pm it was CONSTANT attention. And during those hours all I managed to do was to meet their daily needs. Nothing else was accomplished.

Young kids rely on you for everything from changing, dressing, feeding, entertaining, educating, fixing, saving, protecting, making pain go away, mediating sibling arguments ... And yes, it can be exhausting, and for me it is exhausting to have someone rely on you for everything when occasionally, all I want to do is sit and have a cup of tea in silence. I will admit that I was not around babies or toddlers much when I was growing up, so I didn't appreciate how much work they would be or how much one could crave adult conversation.

However, I now acknowledge all those who I used to judge for not wanting kids as being well-informed. Ok. Off to try and tidy up ...

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